Brother Thomas described how Elohim are a society, rejoicing in love and attachment for one another. Yahweh brought the animals to Adam to see what he would call them. It was through this that Adam realised there was no help suitable for him amongst them. He could not be satisfied by a partnership without a mental and moral affinity. He was made in the image and likeness of the Elohim. His mind needed communication and stimulation on moral and spiritual matters. After his recognition of this vital difference between himself and the animals, he went through a great sacrifice to gain a partner to satisfy his needs and fulfil God’s purpose with him.

The parallel in our own personal development is not accidental. The lessons for human relationships pour out of this chapter like a river and flow through the rest of Scripture satisfying the thirsty as they flow.

Every brother and sister in Christ needs to understand the simple fact that a mind that thinks like an animal is not going to be suitable for a God honouring partnership for life. The issue is clear concerning marriage outside the Truth. We know that it must not be contemplated. There cannot be unequal yoking together with an unbeliever, there is no fellowship of light with darkness (2 Cor 6:14).

There is another disquieting state which is not as easy to recognise, especially when human emotions overrule divine wisdom. That is the partnership “within the Truth” which is not based upon divine principles but rather the focus of this world. The attributes of the world are described in 1 John 2:16, “For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world”. A marriage on this basis unless corrected will soon follow the course of verse 17—“And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof”. The message of John is stark and true “but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever”.

The emphasis placed upon a relationship must put God first. We may sometimes see our young people trying to attract a young brother or sister by using ungodly behaviour or even ungodly speech. Society itself is suffering from gross behaviour devoid of spiritual values. The ecclesia needs to recognise the danger our young people are in, whether it is in the work place or the influence of a deteriorating school environment, or even within our own community of young people. They are not untouched by it. Ours is the responsibility to stimulate the minds of our young people through the Word understood and practised in a Godly example. This will help them to make a wise choice in partnership for life. The effect of a caring and supportive group of young people who show concern for each other must never be underestimated. Its influence for good will be seen as partnerships for life develop in a Godly manner amongst our young people.

How committed to the preparation for marriage is the man?

  There is one point that is so often overlooked from the record in Genesis 2:22. After Adam had discovered the inadequacy of the animal mind for true companionship and stimulation, he went through a sacrifice to gain a wife. Our Lord himself had the greatest animal minds of his day parade themselves before him in all their evil, licentious, hypocritical manner. If ever there should have been a suitable spiritual partner for our Lord it should have been the High Priest of Israel, for that man was supposed to be the typical predecessor of the Great High Priest, the Lord Jesus Christ. The High Priest was not a suitable help for him.

Our Lord knew that without his own sacrifice he would never obtain a suitable bride to fulfil the Father’s good pleasure. So like Adam (the gardener), it required his sacrifice, a willing sacrifice, to gain a bride. These actions are a far cry from the empty passing fantasy and infatuation, that often passes for marriage today. The value of sacrifice was seen with such clarity when Jesus having come through sacrifice and emerged from the grave, said to Mary (typical of the Bride of Christ), “Woman, why weepest thou? Whom seekest thou? She supposing him to be the gardener, saith unto him, Sir, if thou have borne him hence, tell me where thou hast laid him, and I will take him away. Jesus saith unto her, Mary. She turned herself, and saith unto him, Rabboni; which is to say, Master” (John 20:15–16). All the joy, the elation, the pleasure, was just as real for both the Lord and Mary (as the type of the bride) as it ever was for Adam as he first faced Eve and saw in her as a reflection of himself.

If our young brethren take up the divine requirement and are prepared to sacrifice for the work of Yahweh, then like both Adam and Christ, they too will discover that Yahweh will “make” or “build” the woman and bring her to the man (Genesis 2:22).

Those who live by this principle have discovered the fact than in the most important human act apart from baptism, Yahweh is still prepared to make the woman and to bring her to the man. Never ignore the hand that Yahweh can take in “forming the earth to be inhabited”. He has the utmost interest in what shall influence the lives of His children. Let us then seek for the Father’s support and hand in the development of our young people so that they too may be the work of God’s hands. The very act of “giving the bride away” is an acknowledgment of the truth of Genesis 2:22. Through this the ultimate in human relationships may be achieved with the blessing of God. Let our ecclesias make a deliberate effort to give these matters the attention they deserve in these difficult days before our Bridegroom returns, so that it may be said “his wife hath made herself ready”.